Matthew 18:21-35 ESVThen Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.
We've all been there, someone has said or done something that hurt our feelings. Sometimes it is easy to forgive, and other times the pain is so bad that it seems easier to hold a grudge. We put up a wall so that we can't be hurt by that person anymore.
The bible says that we are supposed to forgive those who sin against us, but how can we forgive when forgiving hurts?
We can pray about it. God says that he will always be with us. He loves us, and he wants us to pray to him about everything; Good, bad, happy, sad, EVERYTHING! Ask God to help you forgive those who sin against you. Will it be easy? Probably not, but he never promised it would be easy. He promised he would always be by our side, and never forsake us.
For those of you who are reading this going "You have NO idea what so and so did to me! How can I forgive them?" You're absolutely right. I don't know what someone did to you, or how it made you feel, but you know what? God does! In fact he knew that person was going to sin against you before it even happened. God can help you forgive them. With God ALL things ARE possible!
It is not easy to forgive when the pain is there as a constant reminder of what someone has put you through. It is not easy to keep forgiving when you have tried to forgive, and the person keeps hurting your feelings over and over.
When we hold onto grudges we are only letting that grudge hold us prisoner. We become bitter, and push people away in fear of being hurt again. If we can let go of the grudge and move on, we can be set free from the burden and hurt. I struggle with this daily myself. I won't mention any names for privacy, but if they are reading this, they likely already know who I'm talking about.
Will forgiveness happen overnight? No, it will take time just like anything else. The pain doesn't automatically go away, but as long as we are moving forward, and living one day at a time, it will hurt less and less as time goes by.
Think about someone who has done something to you that you are holding a grudge against? I urge you to pray about it, and try your best to move on and forgive them. We do not know when our time on this earth is over. We are not promised tomorrow. Don't wait until it's too late! Forgiveness will set you free!