Wednesday, March 30, 2016

How to create a calmer home when you're stressed

We've all been there. Bad days come and go. Sometimes it seems as though they will never end. It's one thing after another and the stress just keeps piling up until we burst. Have you ever heard the saying "If mom's not happy no one is happy." ?
( Photo by stockimages. Published on 28 April 2012)

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There is a lot more truth to that saying than you think. We as mothers set the tone for our home. Sure everyone deals with stress, but we need to find healthy ways to deal with stress before it destroys our day or even our lives. Some healthy ways to deal with stress are.....

  • Have a routine. Routines take the guess work out of the day and help make it smoother. You could use a Planner to write down your routines, schedules, etc. That way it's always there and you can refer to it as needed.
  • Pray Pray Pray! Who can handle out stress and mess better than our creator himself? Here is a great book about prayer.
  • Exercise. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress. You can even exercise with your family.
  • Clean. My husband always knows when I'm stressed because the house is in tip top shape and you can usually find me scrubbing the floors or the tub and praying. 
  • Write. Write your feelings down in a journal and get it all out on paper. Writing is a great release. If you don't want someone to see it, rip it up, shred it and toss it in the trash afterward. Just get it out! Trust me you'll feel so much better. 
  • Talk to someone. A friend or your spouse is a great source to go to when you need to vent. I also vent to my mom quite a bit. Just make sure you let them know you need to vent before you start. 
  • Jam. Blast your favorite music and have a jam session right in your living room. 
  • Go for a walk. A change of scenery and some fresh air might do you some good. 
  • Try to schedule regular "me time" so you have a chance to unwind and relax. It might not be every night. Try to aim for at least 1-2 times a week. 
When you take care of yourself you are helping take care of your family. You'll be happier and so will they. Our children are constantly looking to us for guidance. They learn how to deal with things by watching how we deal with things.  If we are stressed and upset all of the time how do you think that is going to play out into our day? Rushing around, yelling, chaos and madness. When we learn to deal with our stress in healthy ways, we can set the example we want for our children, and be better prepared for lifes hiccups. 
How do you deal with stress?

Monday, March 7, 2016

10 ways you can help someone who is sick

We've all been sick before and it's no fun. It really rough when you have little kids to care for when you're sick and there is no one to help. In my position I am a stay at home mom and my husband works. He can't take off work just because I am sick. He has to work to bring in the money, and I have to keep taking care of the kids no matter if I'm sick or not. It's even worse if the kids are sick as well.
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 Photo by marin. Published on 08 November 2012

Have you ever wondered if there was something you could do for a friend or even your spouse when they are sick? First of all I would ask them what they need help with. If they are like me and too prideful to ask for help then you can fall back on this list. Always remember to offer instead of just doing something. The last thing you want is someone who really doesn't want any help to be angry with you because you wouldn't take no for an answer. (Although I don't know who would get mad, it could happen.)
  1. Offer to watch their kids for a while so they can rest. It's amazing what even a small uninterrupted 2 hour nap can do to help them to feel better.
  2. Offer to make meals for them. The last thing I want to do when I'm sick is have to stand over a hot stove and cook a meal.
  3. Offer to run any errands they might have. When I'm sick I don't want to leave the house. I want to curl up with a blanket and rest. 
  4. Laundry. Laundry is a never ending thing. If you get sick and have to rest it can be easy to fall behind on this already dreaded chore. 
  5. Dishes. Who wants to do dishes anyways? Especially when you're sick.
  6. Take care of their pets. Offer to feed the cat/ dog/ fish.... what ever else they might have. Offer to take the dog for a walk.
  7. Grocery shopping. It has to be done. You can offer to go grocery shopping for them. If you're feeling extra generous you can pick up the tab and surprise them. 
  8. Offer to help their kids with their homework. Homework battles are hard enough when you're not sick. Offer to help with their kids homework for a night or two. 
  9. Take their kids to extracurricular activities and sports events. I can't stress it enough that when you're sick you don't feel like doing anything. If their kids have sports to attend they shouldn't have to miss out just because mom/ dad are sick.
  10. Finally Pray. There is nothing better you can do for someone than to pray for their healing. Write them a card, bring them some soup and pray with them/ for them. 

If it's your spouse that is sick, try picking up the load some. Taking some of their load off is a big help. When all else fails ask your spouse/ friend what they need?