Thursday, May 26, 2016

When you feel like you can't go on

Have you ever dreaded each new day? Have you ever simply just felt hopeless, lost, empty, sad, angry, depressed, idle, worthless, desperate and defeated? You feel alone and afraid. You wonder if anyone could ever understand.




Maybe there was a recent tragedy in your life that caused you to feel this way. You have have experienced a bad break-up or divorce. You might have been hurt or abused by someone you loved dearly or someone you didn't know at all. You may have lost your job. For what ever reason you feel like you can't go on PLEASE know that you have a Heavenly Father who loves you so much that he sent His Son Jesus to die for your sins, so that you might be forgiven.

John 3:16 English Standard Version (ESV)

16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

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  • Cry out to God. He knows your pain. He can carry your burdens and take the weight off your shoulders. He can mend your broken heart if you'll trust in Him.                                    

    Matthew 11:28-30 English Standard Version (ESV)

    28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

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  • Know that you are NOT alone! 

    Deuteronomy 31:6English Standard Version (ESV)

    Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
          
  • Things in this life (including pain) are temporary. 
  • Call a friend and have a heart to heart. Friends are great to talk to, they listen, they pray with you and for you, and they can give great advice. 
  • If you're married, talk to your spouse. You should always communicate to your spouse your feelings. 
  • If you keep a journal or diary write down how you feel. 
  • Lastly if you think you might hurt yourself  Please don't wait, get help NOW!! Have a friend or your spouse take you to the ER, or call the national suicide prevention at 1-800-273-8255.


God doesn't want us to feel hopeless. He sent Jesus to save us from our sins and give us hope. Have faith in Him and hold on to His promises.   

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

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Thursday, May 19, 2016

The transgender bathroom issue

I normally don't post about topics like this but the whole gender neutral/ transgender bathrooms, locker rooms and showers thing really burns me. You see as a Christian I don't have anything against anyone. I am not judging anyone. I just simply don't want to share a bathroom, locker room, or shower with a male that I don't know.
 
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I Don't want my boys sharing a bathroom, locker room or shower with a female either. I believe once a child reaches a certain age they need to use the bathroom they have the "plumbing" for.  If you were born male you need to use the men's room. If you were born female you need to use the women's room. That being said I do realize there are children and even some adults who are disabled and need help from a family member to use a restroom. For them I believe a family restroom is the best option, however when a family restroom is not available I believe an exception should be made. 

What if someone lied about being transgender and really just wanted to gain access to an innocent female? Or male? This could work both ways really, women or men. I am not saying all transgender people are predators. However, being a woman who was mistreated by a man in the past, it's scary to think that predators can gain easier access to their prey just by lying and saying they are transgender. 

President Obama said if public schools want their federal funding they had to accept the gender neutral policy. If our local school adopt this policy we will be homeschooling all of our children. I will not have my boys sharing a bathroom, locker room, or shower with female strangers. 

I am a firm believer that we need to stand up for what we believe in. Even if that means we stand alone. If we don't stand up for ourselves, no one else is going to do it. 

What is your opinion on transgender or gender neutral bathrooms, locker rooms and showers?  

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Our potty training adventure

Every parent dreams of the day when their child is FINALLY potty trained. I think sometimes we can try to rush things along for our benefit and end up causing more harm than good. Our middle child started showing interest in the potty at 18 months. He would tell us when he had gone in his diaper. He didn't quite know how to tell when he had to go, only after. I thought with practice he would get it for sure.
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We bought a potty and pull-ups and started working on potty training. I found myself frustrated very quickly. Then I found out I was pregnant with our third child. I had hypermesis gravidarum. Long story short, VERY SEVERE ALL day sickness. I couldn't hold anything down. I lost 20 pounds and had to go to the ER for fluids many times. Needless to say we stopped trying to potty train.
After the baby was born I wanted our middle child to get used to our new normal before trying to train again. We started a few months after the baby was born but now he started regressing. I thought maybe he was just getting used to the baby still. I decided to wait a few weeks and try again.
When he turned 3 I REALLY wanted to push forward and crack down on training. We put up a sticker chart and I set a timer. Every 45 minutes we would try to go potty. Sometimes we got lucky and he would go. We got stickers, did the potty dance and called people to help us celebrate. If we made a big deal about how proud we were of him, it would encourage him to try again right? Wrong! Way wrong! He started throwing major fits and not wanting to go potty. If I tried to sit him on he would jump off and pee on the floor. Now long after his 3rd birthday we bought our first house and moved out of state.


I was beginning to lose hope and starting to feel like a failure. We took some time to unpack and settle in. That's when I started noticing other things like tags bothered him, seams in socks drove him crazy, everything was scratchy he would say. I asked his Dr about it. After a VERY LONG process, MANY prayers, a lot of sleepless nights laying awake worrying, and a whole lot of research we found out that he has some sensory issues. Some he has been able to overcome, and others he will probably keep for life. I tell you all of this because sometimes it can interfere with potty training. Another setback and I reached an all time low. I ended up putting him back in diapers. After all you don't get as many pull-ups in a box and with 2 kids in diapers it was getting too expensive to buy both. This didn't last long.

As his 4th birthday approached all 5 of us got bronchitis and I was DONE! By now he said he didn't want to wear diapers anymore because he was a big boy. One morning he woke up dry and I said "Let's try to go potty." I held him on the potty kicking and screaming and all of the sudden he went. He stopped kicking and screaming and started smiling. Of course I made a big deal about what a big boy he was. I don't know what was different this time, but he was ready! We haven't looked back since. He has been going over a month and a half now and has only had a handful of accidents. It was like something clicked and all of the sudden he knew.


Here is my advice to anyone about to take on this journey. 
  • Remember each and EVERY child is different. 
  • Learn from my mistakes and DON'T force it before they are ready. It only does more damage in the long run. 
  • When you feel like giving up, keep trying. 
  • Now I'm going to totally contradict what I just said and say; It's okay to take a break if you need to. When you're not making any progress at all and you both dread the whole thing, maybe it's time for a break. 
  • Remember EVERY child WILL potty train in their own time. 
  • Try to make it fun instead of such a chore. 
What is you're story? What advice would you give someone who is about to potty train their child?